How did you become a women's empowerment and body language coach?
The catalyst was a defining moment that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to feel empowered, to speak their truth, and never play small again. That defining moment in my life happened in December 2017.
A year and a half earlier, I reached what I thought was the pinnacle of my career as an instructor at our provincial fire college. It was a dream come true to teach at the fire college, having been a volunteer firefighter for 22 years, and finally, I felt like I was a somebody. Unfortunately, my career path always seemed to follow a similar pattern. Every time I'd reach high point in my fire career, I’d end up leaving when overwhelming anxiety snuck in and took hold - mostly because deep down I knew I was using the job to feel better about myself. It never worked.
But I knew this job would be different. This would finally cure my self-doubt, and insecurity. After all, I'd done years of therapy to overcome my crappy self-image. I'd worked to cure the PTSD that stemmed from childhood abuse and my years in the fire service. I fought my way out of the inner turmoil of anxiety and depression and escaped a family pattern of mental health issues.
After working my ass off to prove myself, doing tons of overtime and pouring myself into this job, I'd done it. I finally reached a point of thinking “I got this." However, it was almost immediately followed with a sinking realization that this wasn’t it. I KNEW this wasn't my calling. Sure, I was passionate about all things fire, but I knew there was something deeper calling me. I just wasn’t sure what exactly that thing was. I found myself thinking: “How did I get here - again? How did I end up at 46 years old, leaving a career I thought I loved and was great at, but still felt like something was missing? How will I ever break free from this cycle and finally be happy?”
I made a decision right then and there that I was going to follow my heart and figure out this whole “fulfilled” thing, this mysterious key to a happy life, even if it took everything I had! At that very moment, I made a commitment to follow my dream: I wanted to find a way to make a career out of simply being me. I took coaching courses on line, read every inspirational, motivational, leadership and spiritual book that resonated, listened to podcasts and I studied body language and human behaviour and became a certified body language trainer.
I started getting requests from contacts in the fire service for speaking and training, teaching body language to fire department personnel. Talk about a turnaround! I was making money from something I’d studied to help with my anxiety and knew without a doubt that I could teach to others. I made my intention to keep following this dream, trusting in myself, building my confidence, and create a successful coaching business.
I travelled all over Ontario teaching, and to British Columbia (our westernmost province) to speak at the Fire Chiefs Conference about the power of body language and nonverbal communication. I went from feeling like my life was out of control, and I was second-guessing everything, to being confident and purposeful while living my dream life. But yet, something was missing. I still struggled with creating a steady income and self-worth issues. I couldn’t figure out why, with all of this talent, and all of this success, why I couldn’t break free of this cycle of deprivation.
I changed my focus from teaching firefighters how to improve their communications through body language awareness to incorporating mental health and mindset and empowering women with all that I’d learned. I joined a business boot camp, and I felt unstoppable!
That is - until my two daughters both went off to college, and I was facing an empty nest, and I had a bit of a meltdown. I lost my bearings and didn’t know who I was, feeling empty all over again. My priority for the last 19 years had been my girls, and now they were off living their own lives. I felt lost, and my self-doubt came flooding back in. If you've ever put all of yourself into something or someone and had that dynamic change abruptly, you know what I mean.
This is where the magic happened. The worst breakdowns lead to the greatest breakthroughs. Unlike times in the past, I didn't spend long in this disempowered place.
I challenged lingering limiting beliefs that had surfaced when my girls went to college, and I rose up from the ashes. I got laser-focused on conditioning my mind for success and released my inner blocks and self-doubt to create a happy, healthy life and a business of my dreams. I went from delivering workshops on body language every once in a while and making money sporadically, to working with individual and group coaching clients, and consistently earning a stellar income without even having to leave my home and never looked back.
I cleaned up my past and started teaching other women how they can do the same. I watched them develop unshakable confidence, deepen their relationships, and take control of their lives. I'm committed to helping other strong and smart but seriously self-doubting women who are done with playing small, who are ready to take action and stand in their truth - to break through their inner blocks, create the life, relationships and career they love and have the FREEDOM to embrace their greatness.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups and I’m living my dream of earning an income while traveling with my husband to dream locations with my online business. I have created “Done Playing Small: Step Into Confidence and Take Back Control” a series of 10 important inner and outer confidence-building steps every woman needs to apply to get back in control of her own life, create healthy boundaries and live the life of her dreams in record time.
Who are your clients?
I work with people just like you who find themselves in an unfulfilling job or relationship or feel like they’re living someone else’s life. You know there’s got to be more to it than what you’re currently experiencing, but don’t know how to get there.
- Are experiencing a "mid-life” crisis
- Quit more jobs than they care to admit
- Don’t know who they are beyond being a mom and wife
- Over identify with their jobs
- Feel guilty for wanting more
- Struggle with self-confidence
- Have trouble standing up for themselves and speaking their truth
- Are wondering whose life they’re living
- Are done with being a pushover
- Are people pleasers
- Are perfectionists
- Want to take back control of their lives
- Are ready to breakthrough whatever is holding them back
- Want to take back control
What makes you different from other Mind & Body Mastery Coaches?
My life experience is unique to me, but we've all travelled similar journeys. You have me as a resilience, confidence, and body language expert and consultant. I work on the inner and outer aspects for living an authentic life and look at your personal results from an organic and spiritual perspective. What that means to you is that you get a deeply-intuitive-guide-meets-kick-butt authentic mind & body mastery coach. I also lean heavily on my own spiritual foundation to support you.
I’m concerned with how to get you back in the driver’s seat of your life and heading in the direction of fulfillment of your soul’s desires. You may not like what I have to tell you, but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth - the truth about what’s standing in the way of your inner peace and happiness and how to face it. You’ll learn how to navigate peeling back the layers so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of humour and inspiration, which always helps!) I’ve been in the trenches, and I know how it sometimes feels like the hits just keep coming. I’ll help you reframe your experiences and rewrite your life story to one that makes you go from feeling tired to inspired, and from deflated to motivated.
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The Done Playing Small workshops, products and programs were created for people who are absolutely excited and serious about living an authentic life, listening to their soul’s calling, breaking through their limiting beliefs and conditioning their minds for success. It means no longer beating yourself up anymore saying: “What is wrong with me? Will I never get this right?” They were created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to more confidence, control and success in living your life in a way that empowers you.
Being an action-oriented personal development junkie myself, I’m known to work best with other action-oriented personal development junkies. I’m an extroverted introvert and I work with those who are committed to their success no matter what, who are ready to get going and want to know exactly what steps to take to deal with their shit and overcome their unconscious limiting beliefs that keep tripping them up. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do, and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a crash course on everything you need to know to embrace what’s required to face your fears on the way to your empowered, authentic, vibrant life. If you want change, you have to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: Living your life by design rather than default by refusing to play small any longer and step into your power.
For what type of professionals are your programs NOT going to work?
I’m very selective in who I work with and I carefully decide upon my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.) Done Playing Small programs are NOT for those who aren’t ready to step up and do the uncomfortable, messy soul-baring work of digging deep. It’s been my experience that people who aren’t fully committed to changing do not follow the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they’re afraid to take full responsibility for their lives. It can be scary-I know!) If you fall within this category, it’s absolutely OK. We’ve all been in times of wanting to change but not being ready to commit. This is where the pattern changes. Do yourself (3) favours:
- Take some time to think about what will happen if your life doesn’t change. You’ve come this far. What’s stopping you? Do some soul searching and get really honest with yourself. Give yourself the time to do this because it will give you clarity around what your soul is desiring and de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your Done Playing Small assignments and the BIG picture.
- Sign up for my Done Playing Small email newsletter. The information will get you started towards your goals until you’re ready to work with me one-on-one.
- If you haven’t already, request to join my private Facebook group, Mind Body Mastery
Doing these three things will really help you get primed for our work. When you’re ready, call me, and we’ll get you started. (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) Other personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the chronic complainer and individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together, and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?
What exactly is The Done Playing Small Signature TM system and what does it include?
The Done Playing Small Signature System begins with understanding exactly where you’re at and what mode you’re currently operating in, what’s draining your energy and how to start building it back up, how to generate your authentic power, speak your truth, honour your boundaries, create powerful changes that get you results as well as harnessing the power of your mindset and body language to take back control and ownership of your life. Here’s what the System gets you to do:
1. Your Starting Point
We start by delving into what’s going on in your life right now. Before you can take action to create change, you need to get really honest with yourself and take stock of where you are. We’ll dive into the areas of family, work, personal, home, health, etc. By figuring out where you’re at, we’re creating a calming effect by settling your overactive mind and creating space to breathe.
2. The Time ROI Continuum - Are You Using it or Losing It?
How conscious are you of how you use your time? It’s likely that you’re not aware of exactly what you’re doing with the 24 hours that you’re given every day. Do you feel like you’re trading time for money or trading money for time? Learn to identify the ROI (return on investment) of what you’re doing with your time, and create unique time optimizing opportunities for yourself.
3. Mindset Reboot
We already know that our thoughts create our reality, but have you ever really listened to what you’re saying to yourself? The things you say, the words you use, the tone of voice (yes, your tone of voice varies when you talk to yourself internally, just like when you talk to others out loud. In this module, you’ll learn the techniques I used to successfully shift my inner dialogue from my worst critic to the mightiest mindset possible.
4. Movement & Motivation
Do you know that I can tell a lot about you just from the way you move, how you carry yourself, the look on your face, and your emotional state? It helps that I’m a certified body language trainer, but it doesn’t take an expert to figure out how you feel about yourself by the way you appear. We’re so unaware of how we carry ourselves, and so out of touch with our bodies (the amazingly responsive guide that we fail to listen to), we neglect our number one connection to source.
5. Resistance = Underlying Fear
When you feel that inner resistance to a situation in your life, and you dig your heels in, saying “no, no, no” to it, what you’re actually doing is making it stick to you and therefore keeping you stuck in the same pattern. You feel stuck because you’re resisting something that triggers fear in you. Let’s figure out what and why and how to release it.
6. Body Language
We talked a bit about body language in step 4, but in this step, we’re going to go deeper. I went from an anxiety-ridden socially awkward introvert to a confident and charismatic speaker who travelled across Canada delivering presentations to firefighters and fire chiefs because of the tools I learned, based on the science and human behaviour of body language.
Have you ever experienced a time or a moment when you felt like you were living someone else’s life, or you found yourself thinking, “do I even get a say in this?” Do you find that other people just expect or assume you’ll take care of things, and despite being annoyed or frustrated, you actually go ahead and do it? And then snarl at yourself and others for it and stew about it for like ever? Honouring your boundaries is a powerful and loving action you take to show integrity and authenticity to yourself and to others.
8. Who Are You?
We’ve figured out your starting point, identified your time wasters and time optimizers, did a reboot on your mindset and self-talk, got you back in touch with your body, got you unstuck, taught you how to tap into the hidden superpower you always have with you - your body language and then kicked in some self-discipline with your boundary work. Now for the icing on the cake...we’re going to excavate the best of the best, the things that light you up, get you excited, give you purpose, passion, and a sense of adventure.
9. Visioning Your Vision Board
Now it’s your turn to lead the way. Here’s where you really get to bring it all together. This is where you take what you’ve created in your mind and make it into reality by crafting your vision board. If you’ve never done a vision board, it’s a fascinating, liberating, eye-opening, future predicting arts-and-crafts-meets-law-of-attraction-meets-welcome-to-your-life-by-design endeavour. And I have an AMAZING way of helping you create yours.
10. Celebrating wins, accomplishments and next steps
You’ve done the work - you’ve laughed, you’ve cried, you’ve shifted, and you’ve shed what no longer fits you. You have tools and tips and knowledge and experience at your fingertips to continue to grow and evolve, and you now see yourself as the person you knew you were at heart. Living your life on point with passion and purpose, clarity, and focus.
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work is a shifting of your mindset from self-imposed limitations to empowered purpose and achieving the results you’re after. I'm proof that you can makeover your life by making over your mindset and body language.
What results can I expect?
You can expect to:
- Create new standards for yourself
- Be proud of the person you are
- Stand in your truth
- Turn your wounds into wins
- Harness the power of your body language
- Have control over your thoughts and emotions
- Envision your future and create it now
- Be a time optimizer rather than wasting your most valuable resource
- Be clear, concise and honest in your communications
- Create healthy boundaries
- Have more ease and grace in your life
- Truly love the version of you that shows up fully and completely
- Watch your best life unfold with ease
- Connect with your inner guidance and intuition
- End the drama cycles and patterns
- Raise your self-esteem and self-confidence
- Heal the emotional blocks, anxiety, stress, and frustration related to stuck energy
- Reconnect with your passion
- Feel empowered and excited about the future
How can I see what it’s like to work with you?
Head to the main page and scroll down to the Testimonials section for feedback from my personal coaching and group training presentations.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and make huge shifts in their lives in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how willing you are to face your fears and grow beyond your old patterns.
How can I guarantee myself that I will get more tangible results than I’ve gotten in the past, in record time?
Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of Done Playing Small have successfully taken massive control of their lives and created powerful change, in much less time than they would have on their own AND have had way more fun and enjoyment in the process.
Jennifer, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?
Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your personal and professional goals. The best way to work with me is in my 90-day Done Playing Small Signature Program. It consists of weekly, one-on-one, 60 minute coaching calls for 3 months, along with tools, tips and resources to work on in between calls. It requires you being open to receiving guidance, and being accountable.
OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at email@example.com or Click Here to schedule a Breakthrough Call and I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honoured to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!
To owning your life, love and laughter,